It's not really that it's a choice to not be cis, but yeah, we shouldn't assume people's gender at all imho until they tell us themselves (and as children can't tell us until they're older don't assume until they're older), and even when they do it shouldn't need to affect stereotypes or the way we grammatically refer to them or anything, just maybe what body they want to have and who can be attracted to them
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Why would you trust anything someone says about themselves outright? What if they're crazy? What if they're lying? What if they're wrong? Is that impossible, or does every person on Earth have perfect knowledge of themselves and their true selves at all times, and always speak the truth?
Why would you trust what someone else says about them rather than what they say about themself? If someone says they're depressed, do you believe them, or do you need 'objective proof'? Gender [dysphoria/euphoria] is the same, it's an internal experience.
Do you agree that there are people who lie, or make up things for attention, or are wrong about their beliefs?
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Let's be real. Who would actually pick to have a penis?
I would. Every single time the better choice by far.
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How do you know you didn't and you just happened to guess wrong? Like you were like oh "seems cool" then your neurons grew in mismatched.
How do we know anything at all? How do we know that we're not all just living in an alien simulation and in fact are multidimensional dragons from some parallel universe?
This is what I'm saying! Maybe it's like that game from rick and Morty. 1% chance you get a brain tumor, 1% chance you just get put in the wrong body in some way or other cuz fuck you that's why.
See the problem with "identity" and what is "reality" and what things "are" or "are not" are profoundly complex philosophical questions that have been deeply, deeply thought about by the most brilliant minds of mankind since thousands of years, and they are yet to be solved.
That is why all claims about what something or someone "is" or "is not" is fraught with paradoxes that just collapse on themselves, and all claims to some sort of objective truth and finality are just fantasies.
What matters is to treat people with kindness and respect whoever they are. That's what I think. Doesn't mean we are obligated to believe whatever it is they believe. Everyone is free to believe what they want. That includes the right not to believe what someone else believes. That's what I believe.
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Stop segregating by sex too, there's no reason to do that unless you need a penis to complete an activity.
Chaos.
Developmentally, babies don't even have gender yet. Gender develops in the brain between the ages of 2 and 4 (and keeps developing until the end of puberty). I don't think it's developmentally appropriate to gender babies. All babies are nonbinary, and we should encourage children to choose a gender and pronouns as a rite of passage on their fourth birthday.
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